Safe Sex (Work) for Sex Workers

I have to say we're pretty darned lucky in countries like New Zealand where sex work is 100% legal because it means that if anyone tries to harm us, the cops are on our side. Absolutely fabulous situation, it means exactly that because there is the threat, of the long arm of the law who will back us, hopefully ever-present in the minds of any ratbags who might think it's ok to injure us ladies who are carrying out a much-needed service for men and women in our society.

Those countries who are not into legalising sex work are putting a whole group of sex workers and clients at risk as well as causing people to take their safety (or after the fact, revenge) into their own hands, not always very intelligently. Blood on the hands of the lawmakers, as far as I can see.

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Safe Sex (Play) for Clients

(life as art)

This long post was originally written for a sex industry association with the brief How Not to Pick the Wrong Sex Worker and the tagline "warning signs for clients". It has been adapted for my blog.

Is there a wrong type of service provider or only a wrong type of service provider for you? Choosing the wrong type of service provider* could put a client in a rather unsafe situation, but I believe that a lot of safe but bad service turns out to be that the consumer has chosen the wrong service provider for his sexual needs and personal requirements.

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Is tantric sex desirable or even advisable with a sex worker?

It's no secret that one of my favourite "types" of sex is the tantric kind: a kind of slow, meditative, close and not necessarily climactic linking of two people. It's indulgent: like savouring every mouthful - flavour, texture and sensation - of your favourite kind of food or wine and thoughtfully appreciating it even once it has been swallowed or even digested.

So in a world of fast and urgent fucks, where thirsts are quenched and itches are scratched, and sex is erotically enjoyed as a transaction (nothing at all wrong with this, in fact it's mostly pretty hot) is there a place for something more indulgent, and are there any downsides?

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OUT!

The Scream by Edvard Munch

One thing sex workers seem to fear most is being outed, or an aspect of their lives being outed, and interestingly it is probably the most well-used threat some sex workers make against others. However, quite often sex workers let things slip, for example by their lifestyles or in conversations with their friends, which inadvertently reveals that they are or have been on the game.

Below is a piece written by a friend, who happens to occasionally enjoy the company of working girls. I am publishing this here with his permission.

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